Why Everyone Can’t Be Safe-Keeper Of Your Heart

Being a perfectionist, I like things done in a specific way and have certain people that I trust to do something for me in a way that I would approve of if I need assistance. I’ve learned that most of us are are better suited to take on certain tasks. Right now with my Moms health issues, everyone has stepped up in areas we are stronger in and most capable in managing the way we know my Mom expects. We each realized there would be areas we weren’t able to do the way my Mom would and could not be the “safe-keeper” of it or put unrealistic expectations to excel in a task not equipped in.

I recently realized that the same principle stands for relationships. Everyone will not be equipped to be safe-guard over your heart. Everyone will not be able to give you the level and type of love that you desire or deserve. They may not be in a place in life where they want or are able to give what you are seeking.

I’ve given my heart when I should have guarded it more closely, offering it after confirming that they were fully concerned and careful about caring for it. I had expectations that were not met because they were not concerned enough about how to care for my heart, and not break it. I learned hard lessons on guarding your heart, and that often times it’s not so much the person that hurt you, but your own expectations. I’ve had to take time in giving my heart, making sure that when I did, they proved that they could be protective in how they cared for and managed it.

Everyone will not be anointed for this, so instead of being led emotionally I’ve learned to take a moment to ensure they have the ability to safe-keep something so precious. This goes for not only relationships but even family and friends. A close friend told me recently that someone told her that it was time for her to mourn the loss of the type of mother she would never have. Her mother deals with mental health issues that has resulted in a life of role reversal, where my friend has hurt that her mother has been unable to step into the role of the mother she’s always needed. Even in this situation, she’s learned her mother could not be the full safe-keeper of her heart because she didn’t have the capacity to care for it. That doesn’t mean she can’t allow her mother to love her, it’s just that she knows her mother isn’t equipped to offer love the way she desires it.