Guaranteed Way Yo Know A Man's True Intentions

In my late teens/early 20's, I prided myself at having a “roster” of men that I was dating. At that time, I liked to "collect" numbers when I went out with friends and was disappointed if a night out only resulted in getting one number. A great night was one where I ended it with a few numbers from men that I felt wold be perfect additions to the "team". I preferred to have an array of men (or I guess I should say young men considering how young we all were back then) that I was entertaining, opposed to putting my focus on one young man at a time. That all changed when at 20, I met the one that I happily committed to for 9 years. When our relationship ended, that boldness and audacity that I had in my late teens/early 20's was no where to be found. I instead was a changed woman, preferring to date one person at a time, no longer the immature young girl I once was that liked to have a team.

That was until a few years ago when I found myself with 2 men that I was very much equally interested in. I liked them for different reasons and they both were very serious about moving from dating to relationship. I was conflicted because I knew I couldn’t keep the balancing act up much longer of dating them both, and was going to have to choose between the 2. I decided to turn to the one that I knew would help me make the best decision, so I prayed for God to make the "right one" clear. I asked very specifically for him to reveal their intentions, true selves, anything that could be a red flag and if they were not the one that I trusted him if he removed them completely from my life.

Welp. Not even 24 hours later, I was 100% single again. Lesson learned. When you pray a specific prayer to God, he WILL answer! Not even hours after that prayer, prospect #1 acted a dang on fool. Prior to that prayer, our conversations ranged from family, career, politics, our hopes, dreams and everything in between, all respectful and never even touching on areas that were sexual in anyway. That little prayer must have done a number on him to as I prayed "show his true intentions", because our usual top of the morning conversation that often started with a simple "what's on the agenda today" was replaced with a very out of know where question of "Do you ever find yourself thinking of sex at work?" HUH?!? I hadn't even had my morning coffee and out of no where, this man that had been a perfect gentleman for weeks had suddenly turned our usually PG-13 conversations to rated X. We went on to have a lengthy debate on soul ties and the effects of intimacy in a relationship and during courtship after he made the comment that sex was no big deal. It was clear that this was NOT the man for me, and that God had quickly answered my prayer.

I was relieved that God quickly showed prospect #1 true colors, leaving me happy with the decision of prospect # 2 being the one I would choose. While prospect #1 was trying to convince me that sex was no big deal, prospect #2 was on his best behavior. That was until we reached around was on his best behavior so o was relieved to have a “good man” as the choice God made. That was until about hour 22 of my prayer when suddenly began to show out too! Long story short, a case of misreading a text message led him to not only jump to conclusions, but abruptly discontinue going forward...period! I was shocked that he could be so firm in his decision without even a chance to discuss or hear what I had to say. I went from 2 prospects, to 1 to none within less than a day. All I could do was laugh and thank God for doing exactly what I prayed. By the next morning, prospect #2 was apologizing for realizing that he did in fact completely misread my messages, and his reaction probably ruined any chance he had as he didn't even take time to communicate what he thought I said. He was totally correct considering I saw this as a huge red flag of how he would handle things in a relationship.

My prayer saved me from wasting time and a potential heartbreak. I was able to avoid finding out too late either of their true intentions, all because I prayed and asked God to reveal them. I've since prayed whenever I've met someone new, and each and every time, before I even have a chance to get a chance, God makes their intentions clear to ensure that I do not waste anytime with them. I will admit that there have been times where God made intentions clear but I chose to move forward because I wanted to. Each time, he was right, and I was the blame of moving forward with someone he warned me not to. It will ultimately be your decision to move forward with someone, but trust me when I say that God will make clear if it is worth it to.

In true God like fashion, sometimes who he tells us to "stick it out with" will not make sense. They may not come in the package that you expected, but when God says to trust him, believe that it will end up being worth it. When you pray for God to speak clearly as you date, he will make clear through their words and actions if they are someone that has the right intentions. We don't have to date as if we no way of knowing as God has told us to come to him in all things. Pray to have wisdom and discernment as you date, and to clearly hear Gods voice. You can't go wrong when you put your dating life in his hands. He will make sure that you know who to remove from your life, and who to continue to move forward with based on his guidance and direction.

The verse that I stand on while dating to know their true intentions is:

Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known. (Jeremiah 33:3 ESV)

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