Getting To The Point Where Hearing From Them No Longer Unravels You

I've been able to put certain men in an “out of sight out of mind” place in my head when they are no longer part of my life. I've thought I was "just fine" and totally over them because they were no longer in my life. Then I would either run into them, hear from them, or somehow they would reemerge into my life. One of two things happen in those circumstances. I either realize that I am totally cured from my feelings of them or emotions were only tucked away and end up resurfacing. It’s almost like a pause button was hit during the time that I thought I was “cured”, and having them resurface just hit a play button that picked right up where I left off. I’m back to the same emotions, desires, confusion and even craving for them. What I thought I was over was just managed to not control me or cause me to entertain them. It didn’t mean I was cured, it meant I knew how to live without them while not having them in my life.

The feelings you have could vary from realizing that you still harbor anger, hurt, or even a desire for them. The worst thing is to feel that you are now "unraveled", no longer in control of the emotions that you thought you suppressed. You may find yourself stalking their social media, replaying times spent, tempted to reach out, or even reverting back to seeing them.

A friend recently asked me how I was able heal from heartbreak and move forward while still desiring to be with someone. I told her that I had to be honest with myself that suppressing my feelings worked as a temporary way to not focus on the emotions that were still there. Suppressing was merely a temporary fix, not curing, healing or removing them. It allowed them to resurface when that person came back into my life, because I did not take the necessary time to face the hurt that I felt. I told her my mistake came in hiding the feelings, not facing them in order to work through the process of fully getting over them.

God has given us the ability to cast our cares unto him. Pray for a healed heart and to take your hand as you face your emotions and hurt. As him to remove the emotions, desires and feelings attached to the person that you are unraveled by so that they no longer have that kind of effect and power over you. You have to be ready and willing to actually ask God to remove the emotions. I've been there where I held onto so much hope that I was not ready to ask God to remove the emotions. I was holding out in the event they had a change of heart. Pray that "until" they prove to you and the Father that they are worthy of being the safe-keeper of your heart that you guard, protect and remove even the desire so that if it is meant, your emotions will resurface from a safe and protected place.

If it is meant to revisit or give another chance, God will make sure this time around that you are not unraveled, but healed.

Give your worries to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will never let good people down. (Psalm 55:22 NCV)

My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the Rock and firm Strength of my heart and my Portion forever. (Psalm 73:26 AMP)

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